Why Women Go To Bars & Nightclubs


A bartender friend of mine and I were discussing female nature, their promiscuity and how men interpret femininity and women’s behavior. This friend has been serving drinks in bars and nightclubs for the past 13 years and he wanted me to address this on my platforms. This is a big issue for men to understand and more importantly, to accept because a lot of men still operate on the idea that women are sugar and spice…and everything nice. They blindly accept the concept of trust in relationships and continue to allow women to hold the moral high ground in relationships. The fact is, women cheat and behave equally as poor as men, however the narrative in media, music and movies is that men are the assholes. Accepting that women are capable of exercising bad judgment in these settings flies in the face of our social conditioning.

Cleverly called “Girl’s Night Out,” it would appear that these so-called hard working women and stay-at-home moms need a cheat meal alone or with their gal pals away from their stringent diet of being in caged in relationships that they didn’t desire. All they need is a slap of the makeup pallet, a tight black dress and high heels to accomplish this.  Many men still listen to women and choose to believe that their committed partner would never take advantage of her hypergamous nature in a testosterone, alcohol and drug infused setting. Other men have smartened up and call bulls*t on the partners stepping out without them.

Despite what a woman’s reasoning is in regards to her “real” intentions for dipping her toe into Chad and Tyrone’s tank (“I just want to go dancing and let off some steam), here are the three reasons, and only reasons why women go to bars and clubs.

Reason #1: Women go to bars and clubs for free attention & validation. It doesn’t matter who the man is in this setting, attention is attention. What men must accept is that attention is a woman’s currency. This is how they’ve been able to thrive and survive, because with attention, women are able to extract much needed resources from men. Resources that they would’ve otherwise needed to work for.  Some women are looking to see if they still got it and others are curious to see what level they can still get it. Add a bit of pulsating music, alcohol and suggestive ass shaking, just enough free attention will find her. Men filled with liquid courage are eager to approach said ass shaker looking for an easy lay. She may get a little attention at Starbucks or the grocery store during the day, but the level of free attention in this setting is unmatched. 

Reason #2: Women go to bars and clubs are to get free drinks and entertainment. Get drunk on another person’s dime? I couldn’t even pass this up! However, this is not what I should expect as a normal occurrence, yet consuming alcohol and partying for very little money is an entitlement for woman. The idea of “Ladies Night” allows women to go out with no money in their pocketbook, plop onto a bar stool and get free drinks provided to them. Every now and then, this backfires and they end up having to fork over $20-$30 bucks. Even some of the bartenders might be in on the game and are willing to provide them bottom shelf liquor so that, in due time, enough men will see her at the bar drinking and over the course of the night, may approach and pay for additional drinks. And, this is where the entertainment comes in. There will be no shortage of men attempting to worm their way into conversations that they believe will end in a drunk woman dropping her panties. This flirty banter is a win-win for her. It could be silly and inconsequential, especially if she gives up nothing. The only way she loses is if she ends up on her back at the end of the night with a loser. But, she wins if she can leave with a belly full of free booze, plenty of attention and a wet spot in her panties.

Reason #3: Women are looking to hook-up and get cheap dick from men. The more high-status that male, the better. Outside of dating apps, bars and clubs are the easiest place to hook up right now. While dating apps are a rest haven for overweight women and single mothers looking for a bail out plan, younger single and older married women prefer the bars and clubs because they can easily cash in on drinks, attention and dick in one setting. While she might reject 99% of the men that approach her, she is still being awarded with attention currency and if she sticks around long enough, an alpha or high status male could deliver on all three of her reasons for being there. If that alpha does not appear, then she could earn trust points with her husband or boyfriend by proving that she resisted every man. But, she only resisted because there were no alphas worth of her marital P-sleeve that night.

Any other reason that a women gives you for wanting to go to a nightclub for Girls Night Out, outside of these three reasons, are outright lies. They’re not going there to dance, have fun, conversations or listen to music.  The amount of wives and girlfriends that use this as a reason to grind their asses all over Chad’s dick is nauseating. “I miss my younger years having your kids, and they’re driving me crazy, so I need my time out alone,” she says. She then leaves her husband at home with the kids on Friday night with the possibility of her getting her back blown out should the low budget version of “The Rock” show up. 

This is why I tell guys, don’t accept that Girls Night Out stuff from your wife or your girlfriend when she talks about going to have drinks, to relax or listen to music. You can do that at the book store or with your Apple music. Her and her girls can go to the library, take a cooking class, set up a book club or have a game night in someone’s living room. Or, she can get another husband or boyfriend. Make sure she understands that you will not accept it and be willing to give her her walking papers if she chooses otherwise. 

If men look hard enough, they’ll even find that their wife or girlfriend are going to GNO with the intentions of having rendezvous with men they’ve already met on previous nights. Her text messages, WhatsApp, Instagram DM and SnapChat will easily reveal this.  

Guys, you’ve got to get this through your head. Women are shady!  They are out there having sex, doing Monkey Double Backflips on other men and getting ramrodded in parking lots and bathrooms with NFL & NBA players. No righteous, right minded woman would put herself in that situation. The only people who have a problem understanding this are blue-pilled beta males who believe that their women would NEVER put herself in this situation. If you’re going to be in a relationship, why make it easier for her to cheat or monkey branch to another male on your dime? Many women have put themselves in this situation only to blame a slipped dick inside her P-sleeve on the alcohol. You can never take a bar crawling, club hopping woman seriously.

Check out my video on this subject on my AskCoachGregAdams YouTube channel.


2 Comments on “Why Women Go To Bars & Nightclubs

  1. Interesting view. I mostly agree with your 3 scenarios, but the truth is shaking one’s ass still counts as dancing. And the dancing, drinking and flirting are fun. So technically when a woman says she’s going out to have fun she’s not necessarily lying. And what’s the matter with getting a bit of attention from strangers anyway?
    Your article ending is way too patriarchal though. Telling dudes that they shouldn’t accept their partners going out for a night out is ridiculous. A dude doesn’t own a woman, so they don’t need to ‘accept’ it.
    Besides, most relationships flatten out after a while and become boring and convenient but the spark is no longer there. So if there’d be more effort to keep things interesting (from both parties) perhaps there would be no need for GNOs or BNOs just to escape the lame life at home.


    • Recognize that I said ACCEPT rather than ALLOW. While ‘allow’ would suggest controlling what a partner would do in a relationship, ‘accept’ establishes the boundaries in which your partner is able to decide, on their own, if they wish to overstep that boundary. Overstepping another partners boundary in a relationship is not control it’s an expectation. It’s a decision that was made to disrepect another partner’s expectations in a relationship. The partner who was violated can decide to leave the relationship at that point, not alter the other person’s behavior.


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